The Alabama Gulf Coast
by Terri - November 2, 2006
At the Sand, Sea & Spirit retreat on November 1, 2006, five friends
helped me release Danny’s ashes into the Gulf of Mexico...Bethany,
Christine, Melissa, Dana and someone else who's name I can’t remember.
The retreat was given to me as a gift and a healing opportunity from Bethany
just after Dan died. It took place in a large condo complex on a beautiful
stretch of beach on Fort Morgan Road. The place was filled with amazing
people; seekers who understood spirit. It was very comforting. You can see
how happy I was there when you look at this picture of me.
I
wanted to thank Bethany for arranging my free enrollment at the retreat
and wondered what I could give her as a gift. She knew Danny and loved
him, and it occurred to me that she would treasure a bottle of his ashes.
Then I realized that the two of us could wade into the gulf and do a
little ceremony together, and when I suggested it, she loved the idea.
We planned to meet on the beach at 6 pm.
As I walked down the boardwalkI ran into several new friends, and by the
time we got to Bethany we had become a group. I invited them all to join
us, and they were thrilled to be part of it. I knew that whomever ended
up being part of our ceremony would be the exact people Danny chose.
We walked to the shore and each of us said a prayer and scattered some
ashes. It was dark night and the moon was nearly full. The moonlight on
the water was beautiful. The water had been very calm, gently lapping at
our feet, but as soon as we started our ritual the waters got more energetic,
the waves got stronger. 
I brought Danny down to the Gulf many times while we were living in
Alabama, and once in a while I was able to wheel him down a ramp for
a better view of the water, though most of the ramps ended up destroyed
from the recent hurricanes. The closest he ever got to the water was
the day we took this picture of him.
But that night at Sand, Sea & Spirit Danny got to be on the sand and
in the water, and I could feel him laughing and loving it, as usual, surrounding
by adoring females.